I went to the worst of bars hoping to get killed. but all I could do was to get drunk again. worse, the bar patrons even ended up liking me. there I was trying to get pushed over the dark edge and I ended up with free drinks while somewhere else some poor son-of-a-bitch was in a hospital bed, tubes sticking out all over him as he fought like hell to live. nobody would help me die as the drinks kept coming, as the next day waited for me with its steel clamps, its stinking anonymity, its incogitant attitude. death doesn’t always come running when you call it, not even if you call it from a shining castle or from an ocean liner or from the best bar on earth (or the worst). such impertinence only makes the gods hesitate and delay. ask me: I’m 72.
Out of the three neurotransmitters that are involved in promoting positive mood, serotonin is the one that is greatly affected by the food we eat. A steady serotonin level means that we remain in a positive mood while its deficiency may result in negative moods like:
If you hold your breath, mosquitoes won’t bite you.
Wherever there are mosquitoes, there are people thinking up ways to keep them from biting. Folklorists have recorded only one remedy that might work: holding your breath.
Mosquitoes are attracted not only by sweat and warm, moist air, but by exhaled carbon dioxide, according to entomologist Dennis LaPoint at the University of Massachusetts. “Your breath is actually an activator of host-seeking behavior, stimulating them to bite,” he explains, adding that scientists use carbon dioxide to attract mosquitoes in experiments.
Taphophilia is a passion for and enjoyment of cemeteries. The singular term is a taphophile. Taphophilia involves epitaphs, gravestone rubbing, photography, art, and history of (famous) deaths. Taphophilia should not be confused with necrophilia, which is a sexual attraction to corpses.
Tombstone tourist (otherwise known as a “taphophile”, “cemetery enthusiast” or “grave hunter” or “graver”) describes an individual who travels to visit cemeteries for the enjoyment of looking at old and unusual stones or to find the graves of famous people. The term has been most notably used by author and biographer Scott Stanton as the title of his 2003 book and his former website on the lives and gravesites of famous musicians. Tombstone tourists are usually more interested in the historical aspects of cemeteries or the historical relevance of its denizens.
This law states that happiness cannot be created or destroyed, but is merely transferred from one person to another. An innate understanding of this law is manifested through bouts of jealousy, attempts at sabotage and interpersonal comparison. Side-effects include the development of metaphorically green eyes, a burning hunger for isolation and perennial surfacing of existential depression.
I remembered the odd (from my viewpoint) superstition about writing people’s names in red ink in Japan (and Korea). This may date from a practice in ancient Japan in which a samurai would send an official declaration to an enemy that he planned to kill, writing his opponent’s name in his own blood. There are many other death-related superstitions in Japan. The number 4 is read shi, which is the same pronunciation as the kanji character death, and it’s supposedly bad luck to give a person four of something — hence, most gifts come in sets of five. It’s sometimes considered bad luck to take a photograph with three people in the frame, as the one in the middle will be likely to die young, and some people will always make sure to avoid taking pictures with three subjects to avoid this taboo. Finally, it’s considered bad luck to cut your fingernails at night, because you won’t be able to be with your parents when they die.
Hyperlexic children are characterized by having average or above average IQs and word-reading ability well above what would be expected given their ages and IQs. First named and scientifically described in 1967, it can be viewed as a superability in which word recognition ability goes far above expected levels of skill. Some hyperlexics, however, have trouble understanding speech. Most or perhaps all children with hyperlexia lie on the autism spectrum. Between 5-10% of children with autism have been estimated to be hyperlexic.
The term twice exceptional, often abbreviated as 2e, is commonly applied to high-ability children who have learning difficulties. It refers to the fact that these children are exceptional both because of their intellectual gifts and because of their special needs.
I’ve learned from experience that male friends are emotionally unreliable. They rarely share their feelings and do so sparingly, and it seems like they find it immensely difficult to show or accept affection. But I still want a male friend, like a best friend of sorts. I want to enjoy male vulnerability and affection.
Alexithymia is a maladaptive psychological disorder characterized by the inability to identify and verbally describe emotions and feelings in oneself as well as in others.
People who suffer from alexithymia are limited in their ability to experience fantasies or dreams or to think in an imaginative way. Rather, they portray an externally focused way of thinking, relying on facts and specifics. People with alexithymia are often described by others, including their loved ones, as cold and aloof. They severely lack empathetic abilities and have great difficulty in effectively understanding and responding to other people’s feelings.
Emotional contagion is the tendency to catch and feel emotions that are similar to and influenced by those of others. One view developed by John Cacioppo of the underlying mechanism is that it represents a tendency to automatically mimic and synchronize facial expressions, vocalizations, postures, and movements with those of another person and, consequently, to converge emotionally. A broader definition of the phenomenon was suggested by Sigal G. Barsade—”a process in which a person or group influences the emotions or behavior of another person or group through the conscious or unconscious induction of emotion states and behavioral attitudes”.
We were voting for class reps, and each candidate was asked to give a short speech about why we should vote for them. A petite Asian girl went up to the podium, and said, in all sincerity and conviction, “I may be small, but I can do big things.” Needless to say, she was one of the three elected.
When you are admitted to a hospital, they place on your wrist a white wristband with your name on it. But there are other different colored wristbands which symbolize other things. The red wristbands are placed on dead people.
There was one surgeon who worked on night shift in a school hospital. He had just finished an operation and was on his way down to the basement. He entered the elevator and there was just one other person there. He casually chatted with the woman while the elevator descended. When the elevator door opened, another woman was about to enter when the doctor slammed the close button and punched the button to the highest floor. Surprised, the woman reprimanded the doctor for being rude and asked why he did not let the other woman in.
The doctor said, “That was the woman I just operated on. She died while I was doing the operation. Didn’t you see the red wristband she was wearing?”
The woman smiled, raised her arm, and said, “Something like this?”